Many people come to therapy with a very specific expectation about what the process will involve, while others avoid therapy because of those preconceived ideas. Often, these ideas are based on scenes from movies and TV. Below are just a few of the most common myths we have encountered about therapy:

• Myth #1-- The therapist will act as a cheerleader and can’t really offer me more than talking to a friend.

Therapists are trained to build relationships that are authentic, and to offer support for their clients. Therapists are real people, too! A therapist will not, however, pretend that you are coping well when you aren’t, simply to cheer you up. Authentic relationships are honest and supportive, and that is what good therapists strive to achieve. They will help you work through your problems, which means inconsistencies in goals and behavior are gently confronted. This may require more effort on your part.

•Myth #2—I can’t tell the therapist the really tough things going on in my life, because she will judge me/won’t like me/won’t be able to handle it.

Honestly, therapists are trained to handle a multitude of problems, and expected to remain nonjudgmental. This does not mean condoning every action or word you put out there in the world. However, it does mean allowing you a safe place to talk about even the worst parts of your life. Therapists must also follow stringent ethical guidelines, and will be honest with you if your problem is one that would be better handled by someone who specializes in that area.

•Myth #3—Therapy takes a long time—maybe years-- and I need help right now.

Most therapy does NOT take years. The most common therapeutic approaches are relatively short in duration. Depending on the issue, and your willingness to work towards changes and personal growth, you could see your therapist for only a few months. Sometimes, however, you will want to continue therapy for longer. Issues that are really pressing are dealt with in that manner, and most clients feel some relief after the first few sessions.

•Myth #4—Therapists do the same basic thing with each client.

Therapists are not one-trick ponies. Every single client is unique, as are her life challenges. A good therapist tailors her approach to each client's learning style, as well as her goals. While a therapist’s basic personality doesn’t change, her techniques and approaches will—both over time, and depending on the client.

•Myth #5—Only “crazy” people need therapy.

This is definitely far from the truth. Many people who seek therapy do not have a mental illness, and are not crazy or out of touch with reality. Going to therapy is a way to take control of your life and your choices, and can be especially effective for addressing life transitions, stress, anxiety, relationship problems, school/work problems, or struggles with self-esteem.

Therapists are real people, building authentic relationships with their clients. They are trained to be open, nonjudgmental, honest, ethical and fair in their treatment and approaches. They will work with you towards realistic goals, empowering you to cope more effectively with life's challenges